Wednesday, April 4, 2007

Fate...To Be or Not To Be?


"Everyone believes the world's greatest lie..." says the mysterious old man."What is the world's greatest lie?" the little boy asks.The old man replies, "It's this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what's happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That's the world's greatest lie."


(An excerpt from The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. A fable about following your dreams.)
Once I have fallen into believing the world’s greatest lie. I thought I will be better off as a housewife, only wanting to support my husband in building up his dreams.

I started feeling in such a way after 6months of job hunting, and the result only became the root to frustration. I feel depressed and convinced that it is my fate to be unemployed at this stage of time in this particular almost corrupted country. Yes, the country is slowly turning into the capitalist. Cost matters most, value comes second.

In my little head “why would they want to employ me at my current salary, while they can get someone with the same qualification at a lower rate?” or “you over-qualified-high-paid-degree holder, do you think you are any better than anyone else?” or even “just accept the fact that you are jobless and married, then try to make the best out of it”.

Yet, my husband was there to shake me back to reality. He expressed that I deserve better than this. I was also being told that the world will evaluate me as the same way that I value myself.

Then I took charge of my life. A few months later, I landed my dream job and found a master that is willing to take me as his apprentice. With that I believe, I am only 3years away to accomplish the second level of my dream job. Before long, some day, if I am strong enough, I will be the Arbitrator that I see in my dream back when I was 21years old.

So I believe, when you find the correct path for yourself, the universe really does conspire to help you progress along the way. You can overlook a few coincidences, but when coincidences happen every day, your journey becomes a magical voyage and all you can do is be thankful, live every moment to the fullest and seize the day. All this I learn from Paulo Coelho and his words have been proven by this sequence of my life.

What made more sense, when I remembered one of the Islamic lecture I attended back 5years. I was told that fate is in our hand. Even though the term is Qada & Qadar, yet your fate has been set in your hands.

Qada’ (decree) is Allah’s specifying how things will be, in pre-eternality, by His Will, in accordance with His Knowledge.
Qadar (destiny) is Allah’s bringing into being through His Power, in which His Will specified.

In my little head, I had this picture of our fate that has been set by God, is actually in multiple choices. Our God knows from there, which path we will choose, because we were also being created by Him. So our God knows us better, of what will we choose and what to set for our fate. We were also given choice on how do we want to accept the fate bestowed upon us. Will we make the best of it and survive? Or will be succumb and fall into depression or give up on life?



Is it still the God’s fault if we are not happy with our life? So, is it right to fall into this theory of “World’s greatest lie”?


Moreover, if we believe in fate, we agree that there is a God that is ruling our life. Would we be cruel enough to blame God for our frustration, while this same God gave us our life?

1 comments:

ThinkingLOVER said...

Your majesty the Shadow Queen, why is it that I am so much in-synch with your thoughts? It seems to me that we are always thinking on the same wavelength. And I must admit I am a married man with two adorable and magical kids. Yet it is obvious that I could relate to all your thoughtful writings. I realise my irrelevant comments in here may not be welcome by your better half. I simply just can't resist responding to your amazing thinking lines which share some kind of common similarities or resemblance to my own silent words.

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